Kiki Astor’s blog…articles on all things etiquette, travel, old money aesthetic…and romance books, of course!

I’m poor now—but I grew up rich, around old money people. And let me tell you, they are… peculiar. They’ll have trust funds, but no central...

People don’t always mean to be rude—but nosy questions happen. I’ve been asked how to respond politely to questions on intimate matters like...

When people ask, “So… what do you do all day?” sometimes it’s an innocent attempt to connect—but more often, it’s judgment. It’s not really about...

When an old money person compliments your skin, they might actually be insulting you. Let’s discuss. We’ve all heard the stereotype: rich people...

.You can tell within seconds whether someone’s old money or not—and it has nothing to do with their handbag or how they’re dressed. It has to do...

Have you noticed how some people seem to manage to secure invitations to the best guest houses -in the Hamptons, for example, summer after summer?...

Marble countertops make you look poor. Here's what to choose instead. Marble countertops don't make you look rich. You may think Carrara marble...

My thoughts on the Walmart Birkin...the Wirkin? My husband once bought me an Hermès bag, and I was so angry. Not because he got me a Kelly and I...

How to (politely) express that you don't like someoneYou may think it's so elegant to get along with everyone, but I find that in society and in...

Kiki Astor has been vacationing on St Barth for decades, and even spent her honeymoon there, so it has a special place in her heart. She was lucky...